Note the difference between these statements:
"You're creative" v/s "Your ideas are creative".
"You're wrong" v/s "Your point is wrong" or "Your work is wrong"
"He is great" v/s "His work is great"
"You're right" v/s "Your point is right".
"He is an idiot" v/s "His idea is idiotic".
The difference is the latter statement separates the wrongness/greatness/rightness of a work/point/idea/thought/work from the person. The person, invariably, remains as a person, an individual.
This leads us to be compassionate and empathetic, think and accept the person as an OK person, while his idea, thoughts, work is great/stupid/right/wrong/idiotic. It can be applied to a thief, where the person is OK, while the job isn't good. Same is for a great inventor, where the person is OK, while the invention is excellent. It also gives us an idea to punish/praise the task and not the person. Each person, invariably, is worthy of love and respect.
Hence, comes the fundamental idea of I am OK, You're OK.
We do it very obviously with the material things, like your car is slow, your house is beautiful, your shirt is nice and we won't say you're slow(referring to car), you're beautiful(referring to house) or you're nice(referring to shirt). As the material is physically separate, we separate the person from the material and comment. The same has to be carried on to person's thoughts, feelings and behavior.
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