When one goes for a holiday, there is change. The change is in many terms - climate, surrounding, culture, food, people etc. These all stimulate senses, intellect and emotions. Its a different experience. Also, it is different from what one does in a routine life.
Each of us are recognized in many ways. For ex: if we're a tourist, we're welcomed by the hotel staff or the room service boy attends us. The rikshawalas checks if we want their service; if we're visiting families/close friends, we're welcomed, the relatives would wave you, exchange words, memories, events; we'll be served tea/coffee or called for food, they want to take us out; suddenly, we are so special in that setup. Our presence is so much recognized! These seem pretty small and obvious things that happen in a visit; But, they matter very much. Do we get an invite for tea/coffee/meals daily at home, even if we get it, it is from the same person and so, it won't have much affect as it would be when someone different calls us.
The 3rd important thing that happen is that the time is so much structured. Even if we have not planned anything day wise, the fact that we are off for some days and just out to enjoy it as holidays, itself structures the time.
In this way, the basic hungers - stimulation hunger, recognition hunger and structure hungers are so well fulfilled. Tell me now, why won't we feel so refreshed after every return from the holiday; and why are we so desperate to have the holiday?
To further expand this, it gets applicable for any routine change activity that we plan to do like meeting friends, partying, movie, eating out etc.
Tuesday, January 22, 2019
Which Books to Read? There are So Many Out There!
We keep being recommended to read many books, particularly the personality development books. These books have plenty in variety - learning about subconscious behavior's influence, NLP, Love, Children's behavior and so-on and so forth. The challenge is which book to pick up and which not?! Every book will have good ratings and people would have given amazing comments and how it has influenced them. So would your friends and colleagues who keep sharing how a specific book is so amazing and blow you out!! The challenge then is which book to pick up and which not to? Of course, when someone suggests a book, they would share the good intentions of we getting those benefits.
Picking a book is similar to liking a movie. Not that we like all the movies which are hit or recommended by public or friends. We have our own favorite genre, within those we like sub-category with specific directors, actors, story and so-on.
Similarly, each person has a need, which he is working towards and struggling to fulfill, in his day-to-day life. For someone a book may be amazing, 'coz, it would have fulfilled what he was seeking or struggling. Not everyone would enjoy it to the same level. So, it is important to find out, whats the need for which I want to read this book.
The other influencing factor is how each person has a way in which he absorbs the information. Someone would take it in a very analytical way, some would prefer to have practical steps and then connect the theory, some prefer to keep it straight to the point and start in minimal steps, some would prefer to know the theoretical background and then adapt it to the practical steps, some would want to have the whole picture of it and then go step by step and so-on.
For ex: There is 'fake it to make it' approach, where people are asked to fake the way they want to to be/do and then, over sometime this would become an actual approach and it would no more be fake. This theory works. But, may not be likened by everyone. In such case, its preferred not to take such an approach or books relevant to it.
There are some books that talk on concentrating, mindful living, will power usage and so-on. Again, these approaches would work. But, not everyone wants to get directly onto the solution, without understanding the problem definition, the theory of these approaches, happenings within one's personality and connect all the dots and come to an -'Aha' moment!. Each has a different flavor of learning.
So, know your need, know your learning method and then use them as guides for your selection. There are plenty out there to read. Happy reading.
Finally, it would be interesting also to watch what the friend or colleague is saying when suggested a book. If he says - "I recommend this book" or "You need to read this book". The subtle difference is, the first one is saying: "I like it and I recommend it and leave the choice with you". The second is saying: "I like it and I am mostly sure of your likes or dislikes and mostly you will also like it".
Picking a book is similar to liking a movie. Not that we like all the movies which are hit or recommended by public or friends. We have our own favorite genre, within those we like sub-category with specific directors, actors, story and so-on.
Similarly, each person has a need, which he is working towards and struggling to fulfill, in his day-to-day life. For someone a book may be amazing, 'coz, it would have fulfilled what he was seeking or struggling. Not everyone would enjoy it to the same level. So, it is important to find out, whats the need for which I want to read this book.
The other influencing factor is how each person has a way in which he absorbs the information. Someone would take it in a very analytical way, some would prefer to have practical steps and then connect the theory, some prefer to keep it straight to the point and start in minimal steps, some would prefer to know the theoretical background and then adapt it to the practical steps, some would want to have the whole picture of it and then go step by step and so-on.
For ex: There is 'fake it to make it' approach, where people are asked to fake the way they want to to be/do and then, over sometime this would become an actual approach and it would no more be fake. This theory works. But, may not be likened by everyone. In such case, its preferred not to take such an approach or books relevant to it.
There are some books that talk on concentrating, mindful living, will power usage and so-on. Again, these approaches would work. But, not everyone wants to get directly onto the solution, without understanding the problem definition, the theory of these approaches, happenings within one's personality and connect all the dots and come to an -'Aha' moment!. Each has a different flavor of learning.
So, know your need, know your learning method and then use them as guides for your selection. There are plenty out there to read. Happy reading.
Finally, it would be interesting also to watch what the friend or colleague is saying when suggested a book. If he says - "I recommend this book" or "You need to read this book". The subtle difference is, the first one is saying: "I like it and I recommend it and leave the choice with you". The second is saying: "I like it and I am mostly sure of your likes or dislikes and mostly you will also like it".
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